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Adults Living with Gender Dysphoria & Gender-Related Challenges

Living with gender dysphoria or facing social and interpersonal struggles around your gender identity can be deeply isolating — but you don’t have to face it alone. This open-enrollment, open-ended interpersonal therapy group is for adults (18+) seeking a safe, affirming space to: Share your experiences without judgment Build meaningful connections with others who understand…

The quiet strength of open, interpersonal group therapy Sometimes, healing begins in the presence of others — not because they offer advice, but because they stay present, curious, and human. Open interpersonal group therapy is a space for people who want to explore themselves through real, honest connection with others. This isn’t a structured program.…

As a therapist, I try to meet every client with openness, presence, and respect. I do my best to create a space where people can be fully themselves. But I also know that when a genderqueer person walks into my office for the first time, they might be carrying a weight that I can’t see…

It’s time for a change – Part 2

In a recent blog post, I reflected on the psychological dynamics of change processes, considering a change on a spectrum from normal to traumatic. I considered a change in the light of healthy and unhealthy coping strategies and considered the ways in which transition phases can be disruptive of our lives, as well as highly…

It’s time for a change – Part 1

Let’s be honest, this blog post is a little bit about me. In a month I’ll be relocating to Denmark. After a year of planning, a riot of admin, and a considerable amount of money spent, I’m ready to begin the next chapter. As I write this, everything I own in this world is being…

There is such a thing as society: Locked down and opening up

I genuinely never imagined that I would quote Boris Johnson, and I’m certainly not doing so for the sake of putting forward a personal political affiliation. But, in a recent public statement, Johnson said that the Covid-19 crisis has proved one thing, which is there really is such a thing as society. Over the past…

Repetition compulsion: Why do we repeat the past?

Have you ever asked yourself, “Why does so-and-so keep going for the same type of partner even though their parents were abusive?” It may be a repetition compulsion. This is a Freudian concept on which we seek the familiar; he describes it as “the desire to return to an earlier state of things.” It’s a neurotic…

Shame and the couple

In a recent blog post, I wrote about the sense of shame in our personal lives. I want to add a bit more to that by following through into considering shame in the relationship between partners. In the first post on shame, I described it as an indigestible and uncontainable emotion. Much like panic, deep…

The sense of shame

Shame is one of the most common forms of suffering. In my work over the past decade, I have been touched and saddened by how deeply and chronically people live with the experience of shame. It becomes a part of the texture of our lives. Something we go hurtling back to with every life stressor.…

Beyond twenty16

Who can say why 2016 was so difficult for so many people. How is it possible that 2016 became a global phenomenon for being a bad year around the world? Social media seemed to promote and support this idea, as the 2016 despair filled Facebook and the like. I don’t really understand what this was…

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